BlogFam,When is the last time you added someone to your agenda for their good and not necessarily for yours? Yes, I am asking you in a very nice way - Are you selfish? Well, there it is. I said it. If you think that three word question is too much for you or if you answered too quickly, without pause, with an adamant "NO" as to whether you are selfish, then go back to question one.
Friends, this is a very important question. We can go throughout our day, get to the end of another week, and be looking forward to the next month and we have not done one thing that puts others ahead of ourselves. I know that it can be challenging to do so because we are always trying to protect ourselves from the hurt of helping someone who will be ungrateful or navigate unhealthy patterns of enabling or maybe we feel like we already have so much on our plate that carving out time for one more person is just way too much right now. Friends, I know it is hard but today we are challenged to not be selfish, to live out the second of the Greatest Commandments to love our neighbors as we love ourselves.
Philippians 2:3-4 states: Don’t do anything for selfish purposes, but with humility think of others as better than yourselves. Instead of each person watching out for their own good, watch out for what is better for others.
Friends, first of all, just do not be selfish. It is OK to love yourself and to have a healthy sense of honor and respect for all that you are in mind, body, and spirit. But when all you do is think about you all the time and no one else any of the time, well you have indeed crossed the line into selfishness.
Secondly, with humility, think of others as better than yourselves. I know that this might honestly seem awkward and you might be asking yourself, why would I think of others as better than me? Maybe you have struggled with others putting you down your entire life. Maybe you feel like you keep coming up with the short end of the stick. Maybe you have never felt like you were a priority to someone else. And so to now comply with these words in scripture, it just feels awkward, almost like something more has to be behind it because that has not been your experience with others. Friends, when something seems like way too much, I have to go to the example of Christ. I know that none of us are worthy enough to become the sacrificial lamb for anyone but what we can do is think about why Jesus did what Jesus did. Love and Humility are two words that come to mind. He set aside his own personal comfort physically and dare I say, economically, I mean he did leave heaven, for a moment because he loved us and he chose to honor the divine plan to reconcile us to God. Friends, again, NO you do not have to go lay your life on the line but I am saying that out of love and humility we can let someone else go first, give someone a ride, listen to their story one more time, give them a chance to shine since you shine all the time, etc.
Lastly, if you are still trying to figure out how not to be selfish, keep the second verse in mind all the time. Go ahead and memorize it if you need to. Instead of each person watching out for their own good, watch out for what is better for others. In other words, be on the lookout for what is better for someone else. Just be on the lookout for when your words or actions can give someone else the advantage, the preference, a hand up. And when you make it a practice to do so, your selfishness will diminish more and more.
BlogFam, I invite you to repent for the ways you may have been selfish and start a new chapter that is marked with considering and prioritizing others because you love God, you love yourself and you love them.
God LOVES You and I do too!
Blessings, Glory, and Sunshine!
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